Marriage is Work People, Thanks Ben
Marriage is not for the lazy or the complacent. Marriage is work. Special thanks to Ben Affleck for keeping it real when it comes to marriage. The most touching moment of the Oscars was the Argo director’s heartfelt show of gratitude to his wife, Jennifer Garner. “I want to thank you for working on marriage for 10 Christmases. It’s good, it is work, but it’s the best kind of work, and there’s no one I’d rather work with.”
Many people have criticized Ben’s speech, hinting there may be some underlying issues in his marriage. I can assure you those folks are either not married or don’t understand marriage. Marriage is work. It’s not easy. There are times you want to quit, give up, leave. If you’ve been with your spouse more than three years and you’ve never had to work on your marriage, it’s time to gauge the temperature of your commitment. It may be colder than you think.
Unlike countless romantic comedies, in real life, it doesn’t end with a kiss or a big wedding. After the kiss and the cutting of the cake, real life happens when the work of marriage begins. You don’t run into the sunset. You run into bills, kids, communication and validation issues, arguments, disagreements and disappointments. How you handle those are the work of marriage. In a world where most quit, those who stay reap the rewards of working on their marriage. Those who leave to find greener lazier pastures, only go to find you can’t avoid the work of marriage in their next relationship.
In the made up world of Hollywood, a man kept it real and exposed the hard truth about marriage. It’s work, but it’s the best kind of work. Thanks Ben.